FACTS: you could’t berate your self into a greater version of your self. And even if you do know this, you once in a while still fall victim to your own negative thinking. Sometimes you’re downright rude to your self. You make a mistake, or fall short of your own expectations, and instead of treating it as a learning opportunity, you beat your self up about it.
I’m sure you can relate. We’ve all been there. We all have bad days and moments of self-doubt.
[quote_left]”Never let anyone tell you your not good enough. You are great in God’s eyes.”[/quote_left]Sometimes the pressure coming from friends, family, work, and society in general is enough to make us feel completely broken inside. If we don’t have the “proper” job, relationship, lifestyle, and so forth, by a certain age or time frame, we assume we’re just “not good enough.”
So what can we do about it?
Here’s how to handle it: Every time you catch your self thinking you’re not good enough, you immediately write down an opposing thought that debunks your negativity. I’ve been doing this for the past several years and it’s made a tremendous difference in my life. I challenge you to do the same. <3
If you need a little extra inspiration, here are 10 good reminders when you’re feeling “not good enough”:
- Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. YOU are walking your own path. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel. Forget what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing your self to live YOUR best life.
- Where you are right now is a necessary step. Sometimes we avoid experiencing exactly where we are because we have developed a belief, based on our ideals, that it is not where we should be or want to be. But the truth is, where you are right now is exactly where you need to be to get to where you want to go tomorrow.
- Everything is coming together… maybe not immediately, but gradually. When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. MoveOn from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. Pain is part of growing. Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you. When you roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds help you grow.
- It is your resistance to “what is” that causes your suffering. Remember, happiness is allowing your self to be perfectly OK with “what is,” rather than wishing for and worrying about “what is not.” “What is” is what’s supposed to be, or it would not be. The rest is just you, arguing with life. Think about that for a minute. This means your suffering only ever occurs when you resist how things are. You cannot control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens. In your response is your power.
- Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace. Choose to be miserable and you’ll find plenty of reasons to be miserable. Choose to be peaceful and you’ll find plenty of reasons to be at peace. Think about it. Are you skilled at making yourself miserable? With those same skills you can make your self motivated, effective and fulfilled. Do so.
- You are always good enough to try, and that’s what’s important in the end. Everything you achieve comes from something you attempt. Make the attempt. Trust me, twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did do. Give your self a chance.
- There’s always something small you can do. There is absolutely nothing about your present situation that prevents you from moving forward, one tiny step at a time. Remember, vision without action is just a daydream; vision must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps, you must step up the stairs. And all you have to do is take one step at a time. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tiptoe if you must, but take that step.
- Failures are really just lessons that need to be learned. No day is ever wasted when you live it with purpose and presence. Value and enjoy the journey, even when there are detours along the way.
- Yesterday’s impossibilities may be possible today. Experience is the hardest kind of teacher; it gives you the test first and the lesson afterward. But this is really a blessing. It means you’re growing stronger and more capable with every passing day. So don’t you dare give up on today because of the way things looked yesterday. Don’t even think about it.
- What “might happen” can only stop you if you let it. Rather than worrying about what might happen, move forward and use your energy and intelligence to deal with what does actually happen.
[quote_right]”Never think that you are not good enough for anyone; always ask yourself if they are good enough for you.”[/quote_right]
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So, which of the points in this post do you resonate with the most? What makes you feel “not good enough?” Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights.