You don’t have to be defined by the things you did or didn’t do in the past. Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret. Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not. Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened.
Cleanse your heart of these regrets every night. Just as your body needs regular washing because it gets dirty every day, so does your heart. Because every day people may hurt you, offend you, forget you, snub you, step on you, or reject you. But if you choose to forgive these people and let these things go before you go to sleep, you cleanse your heart. You wake up the next morning refreshed and free of negativity.
Give, but don’t get used. Never waste too much of your time on someone who doesn’t value it.
A good relationship doesn’t drag you down, it lifts you up. Listen to positive people and ignore negative ones. People that doubt, judge and disrespect you are not worth your time and attention. Life gets easier when you delete the people that make it difficult. All failed relationships hurt, but losing someone who doesn’t appreciate and respect you is actually a gain, not a loss.
Being alone in the long run is far better than being with someone who doesn’t appreciate your worth. Know your worth. Know the difference between what you’re getting and what you deserve. There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for the people who won’t even jump a puddle for you.
Stop looking for perfect relationships.
You will end up spending your entire life hopelessly seeking the right lover and the right friends if you expect them to be perfect. Even worse, the process of doing so will drive you mad, as you feel more and more insecure with every failed relationship that doesn’t live up to your fantasy of perfection.
We’re all seeking those special relationships that feel perfect for us, but if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to realize that there are no “perfect people” for you, just different flavors of imperfect ones. That’s because we are all imperfect in some way. You yourself are imperfect in many ways, and you seek out relationships with people who are imperfect in complementary ways.
It takes a lot of life experience to grow fully into yourself and realize your own imperfections; and it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest imperfections, your unsolvable flaws – the ones that truly define who you are – that you are able to proficiently select harmonious relationships. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for imperfect people who balance you out – the perfectly imperfect people for you.
Don’t compare your love story to those you watch in movies. They’re written by scriptwriters, yours is written by God.