“People never learn anything by being told,
they have to find out for themselves.”
― Paulo Coelho
Life Lessons Everyone Learns the Hard Way:
- The people you lose remain a part of you.
One day you’ll be confronted with the truth of loss. And as lifestyles goes on, days rolling into nights, it’s going to transform clear that you simply by no means in reality cease lacking any person different who’s long past, you simply examine to reside across the gaping gap of their absence.While you lose anyone that you can’t think about residing with out, your coronary heart breaks huge open, and the dangerous information is you by no means utterly recover from the loss. You are going to by no means overlook them. Alternatively, in a backwards manner, that is additionally the excellent news. They’ll continue to exist within the heat of your damaged coronary heart that does not totally heal again up, and you’ll proceed to develop and expertise existence, even together with your wound. It’s like badly breaking an ankle that by no means heals completely, and that also hurts whilst you dance, however you dance anyway with a moderate limp, and this limp simply provides to the depth of your efficiency and the authenticity of your persona.
- Regret hurts far worse than fear.
When we give in to our fears, we have a harder time looking at ourselves in the mirror. Sadly, very few of us escape learning this lesson firsthand. If you have already experienced this a time or two, you know what you need to do.It is only when we risk losing that we truly open the possibility to win. Whether it is quitting your job to build a business, running a marathon, or traveling to unknown parts of the world, any worthy endeavor requires risk, struggle and sacrifice. Some of these things may even terrify you, but ask yourself if these fears are stronger than the most powerful of fears, the fear of a wasted life?If you’ve never lost your mind, you’ve never followed your heart. It’s better to look back on life and say, “I can’t believe I did that,” than to look back and say, “I wish I did that.” Don’t let time pass you by like a hand waving from a train you desperately want to be on. Don’t spend the rest of your life thinking about why you didn’t do what you can do right now. Live your life. Take risks. Feel passion. Discover love. Run free.
- Life is too unpredictable for rigid expectations.
When you stop predicting and expecting things to be a certain way, you can appreciate them for what they are. Ultimately you will realize that life’s greatest gifts are rarely wrapped the way you expected.With a positive attitude and an open mind, you will find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than you thought it was going to be; it’s just that “the easy” and “the hard” aren’t exactly the way you had anticipated, and don’t always occur when you expect them to. This isn’t a bad thing; it makes life interesting.99 percent of the time life delivers the experiences that are most helpful for your personal growth. How do you know it’s the experience you need? Because it’s the experience you’re having. The only question is: Will you embrace it and grow, or fight it and fade?The key, of course, is to accept that not everything is meant to be. When things don’t turn out how you expected, you have to seriously sit down with yourself and come to grips with the fact that you were wrong about it all along. It was just an illusion that never really was what you thought it was. It’s one of the most difficult realizations to accept, to realize that you feel a sense of loss, even though you never really had what you thought you had in the first place.
- When you try to run away, you end up running in place.
“Don’t think about eating that chocolate donuts!” What are you thinking about now? Eating that chocolate donuts, right? When you focus on not thinking about something, you end up thinking about it.The same philosophy holds true when it comes to freeing your mind from a negative past experience. By persistently trying to move away from what you didn’t like and don’t want, you are forced to think about it so much that you end up carrying it’s weight along with you. But if you instead choose to focus your energy on moving toward something you do like and do want, you naturally leave the negative weight behind as you progress forward.Bottom line: Running away from your problems is a race you’ll never win. Move TOWARDS something instead of AWAY. Rather than trying to eliminate the negative, focus on creating something positive that just happens to replace the negative.
- Unanticipated hardships are inevitable and helpful.
Nobody in this world is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground and try to keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you, it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward. That’s what true strength is, and that’s what winning the game of life is all about.When you have a lot to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and take a step forward instead, you are growing stronger. Work through your struggles and hardships. Even when it feels like things are falling apart, they’re not. Take control of your emotions before they take control of you. Everything will fall into place eventually. Until then, learn what you can, laugh often, live for the moments, and know that it’s all worthwhile in the end.
Gandhi once said, “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” I love this quote. There’s no doubt that every day is a gift, and the gift is an opportunity to live, to learn, and to grow.
Be a student of life. Indulge in it and absorb all the knowledge you can, while you can. You may have to loose some things to gain some things, and you may have to learn some things the hard way. That’s OK. All experiences are necessary. The purpose of your life is to live it in full, to partake in it to the utmost, to reach out with an open mind and an honest heart for the newest and richest experience being offered.
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