Wait!! What did you just simply say to your self?
Have been they the encouraging phrases you would speak to a friend? Or had been they the belittling remarks you may shout to an enemy in the event you had no heart? Or the negative remarks about life you might utter if you happen to had no faith?[quote_left]“It’s never too late to start over. If you weren’t happy with yesterday, try something different today. Don’t stay stuck. Do better.”[/quote_left]
[dropcap type=”1″]I[/dropcap]f you’re struggling with your life skills, know that you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to get a better life. At times we all feel like we’re running in place, struggling to make even the slightest bit of progress. Just because you came from a poor family, or made mistakes in the past does not mean that you can’t make your future better. If you have labeled yourself as a “failure” because of your past, then you will only continue your “failure” attitude into the future. And if you’ve heard of the self-fulfilling prophecy phenomenon, then you know that what you think, you become. And while this is a perfectly normal feeling, you have to ultimately break free from it and see your self and your life in a more positive light.
All day long you talk silently to your self, and part of you believes every word. So stay mindful, and meditate on this question:
“What do I need to stop thinking and saying to myself?”
Listed below are Toxic Thoughts to ban out of your self-talk because prevents you from getting a Better Life:
- If only I was stronger, smarter, more attractive, etc.” – The absolute worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with your self. It’s always better to be true to yourself, and risk incurring the ridicule of others, rather than trying to live a lie, only to incur your own self-contempt. Remember, almost everything that happens to you is a direct reflection of what you believe about yourself. You can’t possibly outperform your level of self-esteem. You can’t draw from your self more than you think you are worth.
- “It’s too late.” – No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change and become an improved version of yourself. Peace, strength and understanding will come to you when you manage to tune out the noisy judgments of others, in an effort to better hear the soft and steady hum of your own inner strength. And once you hear it, you will realize that it’s not too late to be what you might have been.
- “The less risks I take, the less regrets I will have.” – You miss 100% of the shots you never take. Choices, chances and changes – start making them. You must make a choice to take a chance, or your life will never change. In the end, more so than the mistakes we make along the way, we regret the chances we didn’t take, relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make. You will never improve yourself if you cling to what used to be, simply because it’s familiar and comfortable. Great things rarely come from comfort zones. You have to take risks. You will only realize the full potential of your life when you allow the unexpected to happen.
- “I need their permission.” – Do your thing. Don’t hesitate and waste all your time with lots of explanations. Most people only hear what they want to hear anyway. Just because someone doesn’t understand your point of view, doesn’t mean a great explanation doesn’t exist.
- “I’ll start tomorrow.” – Many great things can be done in a day if you don’t always make that day tomorrow. Don’t let your fear of making a mistake stop you. A life spent making mistakes is not only more enjoyable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
- “Pain should be avoided at all costs.” – The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love, and to be greater than our misfortunes. To hurt is as human as to breathe. There is some kind of a sweet, innocent power in our humanness – in not having to be just happy or just sad – in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole at the very same time.
- “It’s all their fault.” – If you sit around for too long blaming others for the things they did or didn’t do, or know or didn’t know, you’ll remain sitting in one spot until you pass. Placing blame is easy, because it means you don’t have to do anything; you just have to sit around for your entire life. But that’s not living; that’s dying. To accept where you are without blame by seizing the present for what it is – for the opportunities it’s giving you every instant – that’s what injects life into your story and ultimately moves you forward. [quote_right]”It is ultimately only our own thoughts that hurt us. So, pay attention to what you think, and when you catch your negative thoughts, hit the “cancel” and “delete” buttons—FAST!”[/quote_right]
- “It’s OK to stretch the truth.” – It’s disheartening to think how many people are shocked by honesty, and how few by deceit. Don’t be one of them. Uphold the truth, always. Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often. And you should be the one shocking them. You can’t change what you refuse to confront. So confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with gradual enlightenment and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will eventually allow your angels to sing.
- “I just want today to be over already.” – Don’t wish your life away. Experience it. Work at it. Everything you go through grows you. Sometimes you think doing something is a total waste of time, and then it ends up being one of the best things you ever did. Amazing things can and do happen when you least expect them. Let each day be a scavenger hunt in which you must find at least one of these things: a sincere laugh, an act of kindness, a realization, or a lesson that leads you closer to your dreams.
- Truth be told, you can’t live a positive life with a negative attitude. You can’t do what’s right while you’re telling yourself the wrong things. So, what do you need to stop thinking and saying to yourself? Please share your thoughts by leaving a comment below…
“The trouble is if you don’t spend your life yourself, other people spend it for you.” ― Peter Shaffer